Infidelity- a curse for a relationship.

"I love somebody else but I got married to someone else because of family pressure" or "I love my spouse but I met somebody whom I found really exciting". These two are a very common example of infidelity; there are several different examples for it too. Around 60% of couples, today face the problem of infidelity in relationship, may be due boredom, lost love, family pressure, attraction etc. Reasons are many but will negatively affect your present relationship.

If you are depending upon somebody emotionally that is also a kind of infidelity. This term doesnt have any specific definition but it can be defined only by you and your partner. You have to discuss and decide with your partner what infidelity is for you. There are extreme cases of infidelity defined by two couples. For one any kind of a relationship after marriage is acceptable, to any extent. And for the other couple even seeing or appreciating opposite sex is not allowed. These are different perceptions. These are their perceptions for their relationship and nobody can question them why. Dont try to follow anybody, if something is acceptable for someone, it wouldnt be necessarily for you too, because in relationship assumptions doesn't work.

The cases of Infidelity is increasing in India, but I dont feel modernization or education can be blamed for this. Because in ancient India situation was even worse, kings were allowed to have as many wives as they can, nobody questioned them. In villages or in a joint family system, when a spouse is out for job, then the lady had relation with other members of the family, but nobody questioned. So, just modernization can’t be blamed for this.Just the definition of infidelity has changed but it is prevailing from ancient period. It just that then woman never asked why.

If children are involved and then infidelity takes place, its a difficult situation for the kid. "There was an eight year old girl Ruchi who was very good at her studies and was living happily with her parents, till her dad started outstation trips. The day when her dad started outstation trips, her mom started involving with a neighbor. When dad came back from the trip the little chap told about the uncle, her mom got stunned. And later the arguments between the parents took a form of fight. The little chap thought it was all because of her. She thought that she has done something wrong. Her grades started affecting.
Such cases results into a divorce and leaves strong marks on kids, which cannot be healed.The girl learned to lie as her mom told her to not to tell daddy otherwise he will fight. She was loosing trust on her parents.

Nothing can be right or wrong we mess it up and make it wrong. A healthy and clear discussion with your spouse can clarify many problems. Its trust that is the backbone of any relationship, and once is broken is broken.