Dangerous Expectation
Expectation, it’s the reason behind all the problems. The more you expect, be it from anybody, children, parents, employee, boss, spouse or anybody, the more upset you will be. This is because every human being is different; his capacity, needs and desires are different, so its not necessary that whatever we desire at a point of time will be fulfilled. Its traumatic for both, for the one who expects and whose expectation is unfulfilled, and from the one whom you expects, and cant fulfill the expectation, its sad for both. Expectation is the reason for all the depressions and tensions. Why is a life of a saint so peaceful and calm, because he doesn’t expect anything, he is a satisfied being.
Whenever we expect too much from ourselves we face depressions, anxiety, anger and other negative feelings, this is because each and every expectation can’t be fulfilled. Every desire has a limit, so hold your expectations to a limit. Once we understand how much we should expect from ourselves or from others, or if we lower or expectations, and try to be satisfied with what we have, instead of crying for what we lost or what we don’t have, we can never lead a happy and peaceful life.
“An incident happened with me when I was in 12th board, I was expecting 80-90% in my boards but scored only 75%, it was so traumatic for me, that I wasted 4-5 months in crying for what I lost, instead of trying for admission in good college. Because of that trauma I was forced to take admission in a so-so college.” I was so much confident for my result, which was not in my hands, that it shocked me badly. It was all because of my heavy expectations for my marks. It happens with almost 40% of students.
Don’t burry yourself under your own expectations, it will lead to nothing but frustrations. “A friend of mine liked someone, but due to some reasons couldn’t marry the guy of her choice, but had to marry somebody of her parent’s choice. The guy with whom she got married is far better than the one whom she chose to marry, but still she was upset. It was because she was expecting her husband to be like his boyfriend, but that was not possible. Her life became hell, she tried to run away. But later she understood that its of no use to cry for something that she doesn’t have, but she wasted three beautiful initial years of her marriage in quarrelling and crying”.
This all happens when we don’t justify our expectations. Sometimes we get better things than what we expected, but we don’t value those things, because we were expecting something else.
I believe that we should be very logical while expecting, and shouldn’t involve our heart and soul for any expectation, because these dangerous expectation leads to nowhere, but frustrations.
Whenever we expect too much from ourselves we face depressions, anxiety, anger and other negative feelings, this is because each and every expectation can’t be fulfilled. Every desire has a limit, so hold your expectations to a limit. Once we understand how much we should expect from ourselves or from others, or if we lower or expectations, and try to be satisfied with what we have, instead of crying for what we lost or what we don’t have, we can never lead a happy and peaceful life.
“An incident happened with me when I was in 12th board, I was expecting 80-90% in my boards but scored only 75%, it was so traumatic for me, that I wasted 4-5 months in crying for what I lost, instead of trying for admission in good college. Because of that trauma I was forced to take admission in a so-so college.” I was so much confident for my result, which was not in my hands, that it shocked me badly. It was all because of my heavy expectations for my marks. It happens with almost 40% of students.
Don’t burry yourself under your own expectations, it will lead to nothing but frustrations. “A friend of mine liked someone, but due to some reasons couldn’t marry the guy of her choice, but had to marry somebody of her parent’s choice. The guy with whom she got married is far better than the one whom she chose to marry, but still she was upset. It was because she was expecting her husband to be like his boyfriend, but that was not possible. Her life became hell, she tried to run away. But later she understood that its of no use to cry for something that she doesn’t have, but she wasted three beautiful initial years of her marriage in quarrelling and crying”.
This all happens when we don’t justify our expectations. Sometimes we get better things than what we expected, but we don’t value those things, because we were expecting something else.
I believe that we should be very logical while expecting, and shouldn’t involve our heart and soul for any expectation, because these dangerous expectation leads to nowhere, but frustrations.
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